We are all born with authority. We are all born with our own unique voice. But, sometimes we as black women don’t always activate our voices when we should. Sometimes we let the voice of others who are louder than ours silence us. Sometimes we let fear silence us and sometimes we let the lack of knowledge be our silencer. But, I’m here to tell you as you go into this new stage of motherhood your voice is your most powerful tool.
It will dictate the birthing experience you have. It will dictate how your pregnancy will go. It will dictate the kind of mother you will be. And it will dictate the kind of children you will raise.
Sticking up for yourself, setting boundaries, and utilizing your voice is so crucial and is a topic that shouldn’t be overlooked during your pregnancy. Using your voice to express your concerns, your opinions, your wants and needs will set the direction of how things will go. And that part is completely and utterly up to you.
Letting people know you need space when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Letting people know that you need help when you can’t do it alone. Speaking up when you feel something isn’t right. Speaking up when you feel your wishes aren’t being granted. Not letting people walk all over you (family, companions, birthing teams and friends), but setting clear boundaries for you and your baby.
When you stick up for yourself you’re also sticking up for your baby. You’re sticking up for the mom you want to be. And you’re sticking up for the child you want to raise.
You are letting people know I am confident in myself and in my voice. I will not accept just anything. What I feel and how I think matters and is important. Find your voice and use it in your doctor’s appointments, at your birthing center, with your partner, with your family and friends, to your boss, and to everyone involved in your day to day life.
You can’t always control everything, but you can control how and when you use your voice. You set the foundation for your family through using the authority of your voice you have instilled in you.
Stick up for you. Stick up for your baby. Stick up for the life you want.
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